Is Changing Baby Name at 7 Months Okay?
My daughter is a tween these days, just she already has the best story to tell at hereafter cocktail parties: The story of how, when she was 8 months erstwhile, her parents decided to give her an entirely new proper name.
Yep. For the beginning 8 months of her adorable picayune life, my girl'south name was Presley. A perfectly lovely name. Simply at 8 months, we her parents did a crazy 180 and inverse it to Summer. Too a perfectly lovely proper noun. So why did we do it? Information technology all goes back to the first few days after she was born — and a cheesy TV teen drama chosen The O.C. Oh yes.
I had been pretty convinced my daughter was going to be a boy. Mother'southward intuition, correct? So I didn't think much about daughter names. My husband liked the name Presley and that sounded good to me — even once we learned she was, indeed, a daughter.
Merely a few days after her nascency, I started cringing every time someone used the proper name Presley. It wasn't that I didn't similar the name. I really did. It just didn't seem like her proper name. She didn't seem like a Presley. Only honestly, what the heck did I know? I had a 2-yr-erstwhile and a newborn; I was exhausted. I soon had mastitis, and I was crying at soap commercials. I didn't exactly have my human activity together. I figured I would get used to the name.
Except I didn't. 6 months later, I still didn't similar it. I finally broke downwardly and confessed to a friend who assured me that I wasn't crazy — although I remained a little unconvinced. And and then, I finally told my hubby: Our girl's proper noun wasn't Presley.
"Huh?" he asked. "Her proper name isn't Presley? Then why am I calling her that? I call back her name is Presley."
Abiding contend ensued for the next two months while we tried to effigy out what to practice.
Meanwhile, in an endeavour to keep up my highbrow television receiver habits, I was watching the super-cheesy Idiot box evidence,The O.C. — and on the show, there was a graphic symbol named Summer. Summer! That was my daughter'southward name. (Plus, I kind of love that the name comes from some now-canceled TV testify rather than a Charlotte Brontë novel or something. I have ever embraced my passion for bad TV.)
Somehow, I finally convinced my husband to change it. I honestly don't know how. He probably merely wanted me to stop crying. And that's how our girl became Summer.
Of course, this meant we had to legally change information technology, which they don't brand easy for you in New York country. In that location were a lot of bureaucratic steps, and it officially took about a year. But by that time, anybody knew her equally Summer — and I adored her proper noun.
"Baby name regret," the unofficial diagnosis for that feeling you have when you expect at your perfect baby and think, "Why on world did I name her this? Am I going crazy?" is something that tin can happen to even the well-nigh seasoned parent. And for some reason, it brings a lot of shame. You think to yourself, "I had 9 months to come with this. Wasn't that long enough?" Merely at that place is something virtually holding your baby in your arms and really sitting with that name andthat new person. A couple of days in the infirmary don't always experience like plenty time.
In one case you have babe proper noun regret, you may be agape to make a change because you're worried about what family and friends volition recollect. But I absolutely promise you: People are manner too busy taking selfies and putting them on Instagram to worry about the proper noun of your baby. Changing your infant's proper name will be a bleep in fourth dimension on their radar screen. It will get similar this: "Interesting. Cherie merely changed her baby'southward name. Huh. OK. The infant'due south proper name is now Lila. OK, I'm going to at present get back to adjusting the filter on this motion picture of me at the beach."
And yep, in that location will be some fourth dimension when people awkwardly don't know what to call your child (the old proper noun or the new proper noun or both?) and will simply refer to her as "the infant." But that's OK, considering she is a babe. And in time, everyone will adjust. Even your Aunt Lucy who doesn't know why young people brand things and so difficult. (In her 24-hour interval, people gave their baby a name and stuck to it, fifty-fifty if it was awful.)
That bad-mannered time will pass, and shortly yous'll be left to deal with the regular-sometime stresses of newborn-hood, like never sleeping or brushing your pilus or showering or anything else yous used to do. Simply you will likely be very relieved. Your baby will take this perfectly lovely proper name, maybe from some mediocre teen drama, and she will accept a great story to tell at cocktail parties.
A version of this story was originally published in October 2017.
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